Creating a character from overheard conversations

Mark K June 7th, 2008

We were recently visiting a California beach town and I went downtown for my morning coffee. I was observing some of the local characters - my daughter calls this “eavesdropping” and I got curious about them in a “writerly” sort of a way. Later on, I wrote this monologue, imagining how one of the characters might tell the story.

Hi, my name’s Kip and I live here at the beach. You might have heard me referred to by different names – Crazy Kip, Ripped Kip, Flipped Kip – I know there are a lot more, but it doesn’t really bother me. Sometimes, though, I can tell that people are talking about me when I come down the street. Like this morning, I was walking by Mr. Toad’s where I was going to get my morning coffee, but I forgot they open later on Sundays. There was a bunch of Hispanic guys waiting out front – they had just finished cleaning the Sunset Grill and were waiting on the sidewalk for rides, I guess. I could hear them talking as I got close, something about “caer”. Mario was asking the group a question. I know I was doing my lopsided walk and I think he was asking them if they thought I was going to fall over. “Do you think he’s going to fall?” “I bet he’s going to fall.”

Mario’s a good guy, so I didn’t really mind but he made me a little paranoid. I wonder if he knows I was walking the trestle this morning. Was that what he was talking about? Then he asked me if I was working this morning. “Trabajar? Vas a trabajar?” I know he was just teasing, though – he knows better than that.

I kept following the Esplanade until San Jose and turned left and then turned left again on Capitola. I went that way because that’s the way I lean and because I had to unwind – I had come the opposite direction a littler earlier. I figured I’d stop and see Cathy at the Koffee Kup since that was my other favorite place to have coffee.

When I got there Sue was sitting with the Sunday paper, working her way through the pile like she always does, so I had a seat next to her. Both of them said hi and Cathy immediately started making my coffee the way I like it – she steams the milk – whole milk of course – while the espresso drips into one of those little bitty pitchers. She gets the foam real thick –thick enough to float an espresso cup on top of it – believe me I’ve tried. Then she pours the espresso into a tall glass like the kind they serve lattes in. She carefully pours the foam on top – very carefully, so there isn’t too much mixing between the coffee and milk. She takes a long spoon – she knows I’m watching her every move – and she pokes it through the foam until it’s almost reaching the bottom of the foam layer. Very, very slowly – this is the crucial part – she mixes and swirls in a clockwise direction, letting a little of the foam blend with the coffee. After about a minute you have three basic layers – coffee on the bottom, blended coffee and foam in the middle, and a head of foam on the top. Then she gets another cup – a mug like the kind they use in old-fashioned diners – and she surgically removes the virgin foam from the top, carefully transferring it one spoonful at a time to the mug, being careful not to pop too many bubbles – which, by the way, should always be the tiniest of foamy bubbles to begin with.

“Your Kipochino is ready,” she says, walking toward my table with a smile as I let my breath out and smile back. She puts both the glass and the cup in front of me and I wrap my hands around the glass, feeling that it’s almost too hot to hold. “About a 9 out of 10,” I tell her and she smiles again and says, “Some day, maybe I’ll get a perfect 10.”

Sue doesn’t even look up from the paper – she’s seen all of this quite a few times before. She just keeps turning pages – not really reading the paper, more like looking at the paper. She never misses a page – just keeps turning and turning. She can talk the whole time because she’s not really reading anything. I swear she’s the loudest silent reader I’ve ever heard – swish…swish…swish… I count the pages as she turns them, three at a time. Then real quietly, on the bottom of the table, I drum an answer. Swish…swish…swish — tap, tap, tap. I have to tap quickly, before she turns the next page. Swish…swish…swish — tap, tap, tap. On the funny pages now. Swish…swish. Oh, no, she’s stopping to talk with Cathy after only two. She lets go of the page. Only two! I reach over and turn the page for her. Swish….Tap, tap, tap!

“Kip, what are you up to?”

“Nothing!

She goes back to talking to Cathy. I stare at Cathy and drink my Kipochino. I take a sip of the mixed part, then add one spoonful of the white foam and let it “get used to the neighborhood”, let gravity help it to join the blended part, before I take another sip. I’m thinking maybe I should have had a decaf because of the trestle thing and all, but try to just settle down and listen to Cathy. Sue has been asking her if she’s seen much of Jo Jo lately.

Cathy explains that they’ve had a bit of a falling out. I’m gazing at Cathy because I think that she’s real pretty. She says that Jo Jo’s still mad because of the Christmas decoration thing. I’m thinking of how Cathy never wears any makeup but when she smiles, it’s like she all of a sudden put some lipstick on. Cathy’s talking about how she was in charge of Christmas decorations for the village and that Jo Jo’s still mad that she didn’t hire him to be the Santa Claus. She’s not smiling now because she feels a little guilty and she frowns when she says the next thing and she has a little of the biker chick look when she does this. She says that Jo Jo isn’t the most reliable guy and she didn’t want him showing up on the 26th when he wouldn’t be helping at all with the pre-Christmas sales. I wonder how Jo Jo feels about being the number two Santa Claus in Capitola and I hope Cathy will talk about something more cheery so I can see another smile.

Now Sue is asking me what I’m going to do this afternoon. Am I going to go down to the beach and look at the girls? Maybe she noticed the way I was looking at Cathy. I tell her no that I don’t go to the beach very much, that I’m going to be taking a nap. She says, “Oh?” in a curious sort of way, swishing away at her pages the whole time. “Why are you so tired this morning?” If Cathy had asked that question, I would have just died, because I would have known just what she was implying – but she would have a way of doing it that would make me feel good like, “You old devil, Kip, we know what you’re up to and I’m a little jealous about it!”

But that’s not the way Sue asked. The way Sue asked, I wondered if she knew about me and the trestle. I’m thinking they were both sitting here an hour ago, judging by how much of the pile Sue had swished through already – and heard the 7:30 freight go through town. Did she know, did Cathy know, did the whole town know I was up there?

Did they know that it wasn’t about jumping, it wasn’t about falling? Did they notice that my watch wasn’t on my wrist, but in my pocket? That I didn’t know exactly what time it was when I started across the bridge every day? That I knew that it was seven-ish and that I knew there wasn’t a lot of extra room if I cut it too close? Did they know how scared it made me, how crazy it made me, how alive it made me feel? Did they know that today was only the second time I cut it too close and had to lay down and squeeze so close next to the nothing of a railing, staring through the cracks to the river below, making myself as small as I could, screaming as the train roared past and shook the bridge so that it seemed like it would fall down any minute? Could they hear the screams from here or the crazy laughter as it finally passed me by?

“Didn’t sleep that well,” I say, taking another sip, adding a dollop of foam.

Swish, swish ………… swish

Tap, tap, tap.

The building of the clipper ship Seawitch - Pause for Purpose podcast #1

Mark K May 29th, 2008

 
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When we look back on the years of our youth, all of us (if we’re honest enough) can find decisions that we’ve made that look incredibly foolish from our mature perspective. We wonder how we could possibly have thought that was a good idea. Yet at the time, we plunged in at full speed, without a moment’s hesitation. Are we better or worse because of these experiences?

In this, my first attempt at podcasting, my friend John tells the story of a very ambitious project that didn’t work out quite as planned…

StoryCorps closes its booth at Grand Central

Mark K May 24th, 2008

StoryCorps recently closed down their recording booth at New York’s Grand Central station. It had been open for nearly five years and more than 5000 interviews had been recorded there. I feel honored that due to a fortunate set of circumstances and a little persistence on my part, I was able to record an interview there during the last days when the booth was in operation.

StoryCorps plans to find a new home for the booth and has several other booths in operation, including another one in New York’s Foley square, so there are still plenty of ways to participate in the interviewing process.

StoryCorps gave me a taste for the interview and editing process and I love their concept that everyone has a story to tell. With that in mind, I have purchased a digital recorder and begun doing interviews. I’m working on the editing of my first piece and plan to post it as a podcast soon, right here on PauseforPurpose.

To learn more about StoryCorps, visit their website. To listen to my StoryCorps interview, click here.

Walking on your knees? Please explain!

Mark K May 16th, 2008

I recently witnessed something while waiting in line at the pharmacy and I’m having trouble coming up with a plausible explanation of what I saw. I was hoping that you could help me out.

Kaiser healthcare is extremely busy in our city and I had to stop at the pharmacy to pick up some medication for my son, who had had his wisdom teeth extracted. The pharmacy was packed with people, the line snaking almost to the door. It was extremely confusing about where you were supposed to stand depending on whether you were dropping off a prescription or picking one up. Finally I was able to drop off my prescription and was told to take a seat and my name would be called when it was ready.

As I sat and waited, I was able to observe what happens whenever an overburdened bureaucracy comes in contact with a harried public, impatient to have their needs met. An elderly woman with a cane, obviously sickly and uncomfortable would make it to the front of the line after waiting 20 minutes. The clerk would explain to her very politely that her prescription was not available because she hadn’t picked it up soon enough and the elderly woman would become insensed. I couldn’t hear what she was saying, but there was a good deal of head wagging and finger pointing and an occassional phrase such as “I’ve had this happen every time” or “I’m not going to leave here until…” or “You people…” (never an auspicious beginning to a sentence, in my opinion). The clerk would remain amazingly courteous throughout the interchange, but you got the feeling that she had this sort of confrontation a couple of times every hour.

While all this was going on, a woman - forty-ish, neatly dressed, relatively healthy-looking - enters the pharmacy and joins the long line waiting to drop off prescriptions. The thing that set her apart was not that she was talking on a cell phone (several other people were doing the same) but that she got down on her knees in her place in line as she was talking. I had the feeling that maybe the reception was bad inside the building and that it was better in just that one particular location. But then the next thing she did struck me as very odd.

As the line slowly moved forward, she remained on her knees, actually walking on her knees to move up behind the person ahead of her. She kept talking, completely unselfconscious, resting back on her haunches from time-to-time when the line wasn’t moving.

She remained on the phone (and on her knees) for the entire 15 minutes while she was in line and, as luck would have it, ended up at the window next to me when I was called up to the counter. I heard her say to the person on the other end of the phone, “I’ve been standing in line for 15 minutes at Kaiser Pharmacy.”

By now my curiosity was really getting the best of me and I felt like interrupting and saying, “No, you were actually kneeling in line for 15 minutes and at times crawling on your knees. Why? Can you please tell me why oh why you were doing this?

I remember when I was growing up; we visited a cathedral in Montreal where people with health problems would wait in a long line, which reached for blocks up a sidewalk and up the stairs into the cathedral. They were waiting on their knees, just like this woman, inching their way along, one step at a time. When you reached the shrine inside the cathedral, there was a collection of crutches, canes and braces from people who had crawled up there over the years, apparently miraculously cured of their afflictions.

Is this what this woman was doing? Would I return someday to Kaiser pharmacy and find her cell phone resting on the counter as a token of her appreciation for having received her prescription in a timely manner?

Alas, I failed to have enough nerve to ask her why she had chosen this method of navigating the Kaiser queue and so I turn to you, the readers, for help.

Please explain!

StoryCorps: Everyone has a story to tell

Mark K May 7th, 2008

 
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The original StoryCorps booth, pictured here, is in Grand Central Terminal in New York. The idea behind StoryCorps is that regular, everyday people have compelling stories to tell, that we will find wisdom, wonder and poetry in these stories, that our lives matter and won’t be forgotten, and that listening is an act of love.

During a recent visit to New York, I was able to make an appointment at the StoryCorps booth and tried to persuade one of my family members to be my interview subject. Finally my two sisters-in-law, Hilde and Francia, agreed to participate, but only if they could be the ones asking the questions.

At the end of the recording session, you are given a recorded copy and a second copy is preserved at the Library of Congress. To find out more about StoryCorps, and how you can participate, visit their website, or read the book Listening Is an Act of Love.

Here is an edited version of the interview. It’s kind of a companion piece to my six-word memoir: Left smalltown, saw brightlights. Still blinking.

Springtime in New York

Mark K May 2nd, 2008

Springtime in New York

Frozen Grand Central

Mark K April 29th, 2008

Check out this video of a “flash mob” event at Grand Central Station. What place could better represent the crazy hectic pace of life than Grand Central Station? Watch these people pausing (for five minutes!) for a purpose.

Finding your own voice as a writer

Mark K April 29th, 2008

Recently I had a chance to hear Billy Collins, two time poet laureate of the United States, read some of his poetry. Afterwards, he was asked what a young writer could do to improve his or her writing.

He said the key was to read as many books as you can get your hands on - read poets and authors whose style you would like to emulate. If you don’t absolutely fall in love with the writing, read through these books quickly until you find a writer who makes you absolutely sick with envy because you wish it were you who had written those perfect lines. Keep searching until you find more of these writers and then try out their style - borrow, copy, imitate. He added in a tone that could have been taken as a joke or as serious, that eventually you will meld all of these styles into your own style, that people will think is an original one.

I was telling this story to a writer friend of mine and her face lit up with recognition as she described her experience with “writer envy” with the hyperbole of a writer who is passionate about her work. She admitted that she once admired a writer’s work so much that she “wanted to actually eat the pages” and that she would sometimes take pages that she had written and tuck them inside his book, hoping that some of the magic would rub off on her work!

As writers, we’re always trying to find our own unique voice. I remember once when I read a piece in a writer’s workshop and someone commented that he could recognize right away that it was written in my usual style. I had always wondered how someone develops a style of writing that is his own and it made me feel good that mine was starting to emerge.

As we develop our “unique style”, I guess that we never really know how much of that voice is an echo of writers who inspire us and how much is of our own invention.

Theme ideas for a book/movie discussion group

Mark K April 21st, 2008

About a year and a half ago, I created a book/movie/discussion group. A couple of things about it that make it unique are that all of the members are men, that we include both books and movies, and that there is usually a theme that unifies the materials.

My inspiration came partly from the NPR weekly radio program This American Life, which is based on a theme each week, with three stories that relate to that theme. The connection between the stories, as in our group, is sometimes a bit tenuous, but that can sometimes make the discussion even more interesting. One month, for example, who chose a movie and a book which didn’t seem to be related and then left it up to each member to explain what he thought was the theme that connected the two.

In planning for our group, I often search the Internet for movies which relate to a certain theme and find that it’s difficult to find resources which are helpful in doing this. I thought it might be helpful to others if I provided this list of what we have done so far.

  • theme - Living off the grid, book - Into the Wild (Jon Krakauer), film - Grizzly Man
  • theme - Culture Crash, book - The Tortilla Curtain (T.C. Boyle), film - Crash and Grand Canyon
  • theme - Interests, passions, hobbies for life, book - It’s Only Too Late if you Don’t Start Now ( Barbara Sher), film - The World’s Fastest Indian, Surfing for Life
  • theme - Wandering, book - Zorro (Isabel Allende), film - The Terminal, Motorcycle Diaries
  • theme - Intuition and Intention, book - The Tipping Point and Blink (Malcom Gladwell), film - What the Bleep do we Know?
  • theme - Fame, book - A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius (Dave Eggers), film - Almost Famous
  • theme - Creativity, book - Lennon Remembers (Jan Wenner), film - No Direction Home
  • theme - On the Road, book - On the Road (Jack Kerouak), film - The Sure Thing
  • theme - Dropping Out, book - The Catcher in the Rye (J.D. Salinger), film - Five Easy Pieces
  • theme - Small Town, book - Look Homeward, Angel (Thomas Wolf), film - The Dish
  • theme - Immortality, book - Immortality (Milan Kundera), film - The Unbearable Lightness of Being
  • theme - Finding your roots, short story - All This Family (Greg Sarris), film - The Shipping News
  • theme - Inappropriate humor, book - Me Talk Pretty One Day (David Sedaris), film - Borat
  • theme - You choose the theme, short story - NASA’s Successful Quantifying of Comedy Timing (Penn and Teller), film - The Talented Mr. Ripley
  • theme - War and cold war, book - Slaughterhouse Five (Kurt Vonnegut), film - The Lives of Others
  • theme - A book and movie that are important to you, book suggestion - Portrait of an Artist as a Young Man (James Joyce), film suggestion - The Deer Hunter
  • theme - Fathers and Sons, book - Life With Father (Clarence Day) and The Kite Runner (Khaled Hosseini), film - The Son
  • theme - Male bonding, book - The Teammates (David Halberstam), film - Diner, Rio Bravo
  • theme - Oil and blood , book - Oil! (Upton Sinclair), film - There Will Be Blood, Giant
  • theme - Alienation, story - The Metamorphosis (Franz Kafka), film - American Beauty
  • theme - The detective code, book - The Maltese Falcon (Dashiell Hammett) film - Gone Baby Gone, The Maltese Falcon
  • theme - Creating the impression of being well-read, book - How to talk about books you haven’t read (Pierre Bayard), film - Il Postino

How to talk about books you haven’t read

Mark K April 19th, 2008

I’ve found the perfect book for my book group, Pierre Bayard’s How to Talk About Books You Haven’t Read.

As I described in a previous post, it’s been an ongoing struggle to get a group guys to actually read a book before coming together to discuss it. So now Bayard offers the perfect solution - you don’t actually have to read a book in order to carry on an intelligent conversation about it, with the added bonus of possibly convincing others that you have actually read it!

Bayard’s contention is that a classroom setting is the only place where you are expected to memorize a book and then regurgitate the facts on a test. Each of us, whether we actually read the entire book or not, only keep selected memories from the book, memories which are often colored by our own experiences and what we want to take from the book. When we discuss a book, we are trading comments about the way that book affected each of us and how it relates to the culture in general, not reciting the chapter and verse of what we have read.

He recommends these accepted ways of not reading the book:

  • just skim
  • don’t even pick it up
  • get your information from secondary sources such as reviews
  • read it, but then forget it

Bayard claims that reading a book in its entirety might actually distract one from having a good discussion about the book and to reinforce his point, quotes Oscar Wilde, who once said, “I never read a book I must review, it prejudices you so.”

In that spirit, I’ve decided to recommend this book to my book group which is meeting next week. I will leave it to their own judgment as far as how they want to actually “read” the book.

Who knows, I might actually read it myself!

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